Ephesians 5:21-33 shares how the marital relationship is to reflect Christ and the Church. With all that you see around you every day, never forget what your true goal should be as a Christian couple – that is, a representation of Christ and His Church.
Ephesians 5:33 (AMP) says this to husbands and wives:
“However, each man among you [without exception] is to love his wife as his very own self [with behavior worthy of respect and esteem, always seeking the best for her with an attitude of lovingkindness], and the wife [must see to it] that she respects and delights in her husband [that she notices him and prefers him and treats him with loving concern, treasuring him, honoring him, and holding him dear].”
We encourage you to read the fullness of this Scripture as a couple and seek the Lord on where He wants you to focus.