Husbands should relate to their wives in the same way Christ treats His Church.
As husbands, we are called to be gentle, understanding, patient, kind, sacrificial, helping our wives to fulfill their purpose in God. She too is a child of God and deserves to be treated with honour, respect and love.
“In the same way, you husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way [with great gentleness and tact, and with an intelligent regard for the marriage relationship], as with someone physically weaker, since she is a woman. Show her honor and respect as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered or ineffective.”
1 Peter 3:7 (AMP)
Is your treatment of your wife reflecting your love for God? If not, it’s not too late to repent and make a true change in your efforts.